Friday, February 23, 2024

Safe For Work (SFW) BDSM Glossary 11

Humiliation; in BDSM; Humiliation is a subjective issue and is dependent on context. It does not need to be sexual in nature; as with many other sexual activities, it is the feelings that are obtained from the experience that are desired, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. Usually there is a feeling of submission for the person being humiliated and dominance for the person implementing the humiliation. Erotic humiliation can be done verbally, physically, or both, and can be either private or public. Many kink officianpados who are involved with someone at work. Will post photos from their workplace if it's Safe For Work. Some individuals assume an acting role and others prefer to be spoken to in a degrading way. A classic technique that can be used to put the submissive into a bottom mind space is to humiliate them while also providing them with sexual stimulation. Select individuals who desire this form of humiliation also use it to acquire emotional release. Humiliation can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations, it can also be easily carried out over a long distance (such as online). Or while remotely if it's Safe For Work. All humiliation should be consensual.

Safe For Work Hypnosis;

Erotic hypnosis is a broad term for a variety of erotic activities involving hypnosis. Some erotic hypnosis is practiced in the context of BDSM relationships and communities. In addition, for some people hypnosis is inherently erotic, making it an example of a sexual fetish or paraphilia.

 

Safe For Work Impact Play;

From spanking to slapping to punching -- falls under the BDSM and Fetish category of ' impact play,' during which a person who has given specific, informed consent is struck for sexual gratification.

Knife Play in BDSM;

Knife play is a form of consensual BDSM edgeplay involving knives, daggers, and swords as a source of physical and mental stimulation. What do you say during knife play? As little as possible. The person holding the knife should say, ‘ Don't move.’ Sometimes, they may describe what they wants to do, how they wants to mark your skin. You should only allow an experienced practitioner to come near you with a knife, and then if you do have clear agreement and understanding about what they can and can’t do.

Safe For Work Masturbation;

Self masturbation Is the act of sexually pleasuring one’s self. It has always been with us since humans walked the earth. The most basic masturbation technique is for men is to use their hand to pleasure the penis an/or stimulate the genitals. Or use a sex toy that has a hollow centre. Females masturbate by using a hand/fingers to stimulate the clitoris, vulva, labia, or other erogenous zones like the nipples. Such repeated stimulating acts can heighten sexual arousal, that can end in orgasm or ejaculation. Masturbation can also happen when another individual/s enjoy mutual masturbation with each other, or in a group setting.

Oral Sex;

Is the act of performing sexual stimulation of the genitals by mouth/tongue. The most popular oral sex is from a blow job (sucking/licking on the penis) or cunnilingus (pleasuring the vagina, clitoris, vulva, labia by mouth), or rimming the anus (using the mouth and tongue). There is also the act of deep-throating the penis by mouth.

Safe For Work Orgasms;

An orgasm is what usually happens when humans reach the height of sexual arousal. It usually feels really good. When you have an orgasm, aka cum or to climax. Sexual tension increases until it reaches a peak in arousal, and a release happens in your body and genitals. Orgasm, or sexual climax, is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual arousal phase. Resulting in rhythmic, involuntary muscle contractions in the pelvic region. This creates sexual pleasure. Which can be experienced by males and females. Orgasms are usually associated with involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation, and, frequently, body movements and vocalizations.

The period after orgasm (known as the resolution phase) is typically a relaxing experience, attributed to the release of the neurohormones oxytocin and prolactin as well as endorphins (or "endogenous morphine"). Human orgasms usually result from physical sexual stimulation of the penis in males (typically accompanied by ejaculation) and of the clitoris in females.

Safe For Work Orgasm Denial in BDSM;

Whereby the recipient can be mentally or physically denied reaching full orgasm. It is sometimes used during humiliation play and control play in Bdsm. The recipient is allowed to have sex but not allowed to enjoy ‘ finishing ‘ with an orgasm. Alternatively the recipient is brought to the edge of orgasm by a partner, only to be denied the orgasm seconds before he can ejaculate, by immediately removing any bodyily contact with the recipient. This can also be part of a power exchange dynamic, or chastity play, that involves having the male member contained by a chastity cage.

Safe For Work Sex;

Is a sexual group activity, usually where 4 or more people get together as a group of mixed genders to sexually enjoy each other simultaneously. Usually consent to the various activities that can take place are pre agreed before any play begins.

Medical Play;

Is a form of role play that involves ‘ medical examinations ‘ and procedures as part of consensual kink themes. Sometimes medical devices are used, like cheek retractors. Or other implements like a speculum that can keep the vagina open. The setting is usually important, so some dominants go to great lengths to ensure a room looks like a genuine medical space, in the way it is set out and presented. The scene may be centred around a power exchange dynamic between patient (submissive) and medical professional (Dominant). The patient consensually understands her role is one of vulnerability during an examination. This can be enhanced if there is a gynecology chair (so the legs can be positioned wide open) or dental chair that can be raised by the foot pumping mechanism or electrically.

This gives credibility to the themes, combined with the dominant wearing a white doctors laboratory coat, and spectacles for further authenticity. Furthermore; the ‘ doctor ‘ could have tools like a stethoscope, reflex hammer, speculum, and thin rubber medical gloves to hand. As well as a cip board and pen to make personal notes about the patient. Sensory play and humiliation techniques can be introduced (asking about the patients sexual history) to further enhance medical play.

Needle Play;

Involves the use of needles to temporarily pierce the skin on the body, creating patterns, especially on the chest, abdomen and thighs. This should be left to experienced practitioners who are aware of hygiene, sterilisation requirements, and safety. There can be a risk of blood borne pathogens. The needles used are generally categorized by the needles thickness and length. Skin staplers can also be used to close wounds or create patterns.

Not Safe For Work or (NSFW);

Means ‘ not safe for work ‘ or ‘ not suitable for work ‘. It may be used in an email, or on a website, or other electronic communication as a warning that it’s content may not be suitable in a working environment or may have links to adult or pornographic, offensive, or other content unsuitable for viewing at work, or in public places.

Safe For Work Play in BDSM;

In the world of bdsm pet paly is popular across genders and kink. It’s an umbrella term for a wide variety of themes and fetishes involving a handler & pet. It’s great for newbies starting out in submission and domination. Pets can choose an affectionate animal to be likened to; eg; bunny (rabbit), kitten, pony, piggy, etc. Pets generally enjoy being ‘ babied ‘ and taken care of, like you would do for your new ‘ actual ‘ pet in a household. Role playing comes in to this, as puppies are made to feel safe by said handler, and can start to explore their fetish, knowing a handler (or Daddy dominant) is close by to guide them. And sometimes admonish them for bad behaviour. The role can be further enhanced if the pet accepts being ‘ collared ‘ by the handler, where a collar is attached to her neck.

Some pets like to wear a mask that replicates the pet, eg; dog, cat, bunny rabbit, pony. Many live the role and accept they will be ‘ caged ‘ from time to time, be fed, dressed, and may undergo ‘ grooming ‘ from the owner. Humiliation and discipline can become part of the dynamic. With wayward pets being sent to the ‘ naughty step ‘ to adjust any bad behaviour.

Safe For Work or (SFW);

All who come in to contact with the ' safe for work ' or ' suitable for work ' notice should take it at face value. It is used to pre warn the viewer that a website, attachment, or message they are about to click on, is ' safe for work ' content in a workplace or public space. However; As individuals are increasingly having work place romances and relationships. It means SFW isn't always accurate. Employees can go to the convenience/toilets and take explicit photos to send to the person they are having relations with. Many are having casual flings soley at work for convenience to spice up their sex lives.

Piss Tank; An affectionate phrase used by Dominants when describing emptying their bladder (or piss tank) on to a play partner.

Play Fighting in BDSM;

Is as it sounds playing at fighting, where both parties wrestle and goof around on the floor or bed. But such activities can quickly turn sexual, if a heterosexual man and woman are involved, and even if a same sex couple. If one partner is more dominant, they will want to subdue the other, and very quickly one thing leads to another. The main objective is to make the other person submit and surrender to a more dominant opponent. Submission may be caused by exhaustion and the opportunity for the victor to enjoy the spoils of winning.

Race Play in BDSM;

Is emotive. As the overriding focus is on the ethnicity, race of the participants. Due to embedded stereotypes within human nature. Some participants may want to use degrading slurs, degradation in physical & psychological exchanges. Others participants may want to embrace their race/creed and play to the stereotype role associated with their race during expressions and interactions with the other party. Consensual boundaries need to be established before any play commences to avoid one or another party becoming upset.

Rimming;

Is the action of working your tongue around a sexual partners anus. This can result in a pleasurable experience for the recipient and provider.